"People will stare. Make it worth their while." —-Harry Winston
I can’t agree more with Harry. It’s not every day, especially where I live, that you see a fashionable fat girl. Most women of all sizes in Vermont dress in frumpy, comfortable clothes than fashion-forward clothing. I live in the biggest “city” in Vermont- Burlington- which has a number of lovely chic boutiques, but NONE of them offer plus-size selections. Aside from having a serious grudge (in which I’m outspoken) about that, I have an even more serious challenge to look stylish, on a budget, and being the size 20 that I am. I have 5 words for you: Thank God for ASOS Curve. They’ve been my go-to source (aside from my beloved secondhand shoppes) for fashion. These peg pants are ASOS. The “chicing up PJ’s” thing is in right now, and I think these definitely look PJ-ish, but it all depends on how you style them. I later wore them high-waisted (as seen in the bottom pic) and felt so confident showing off my curves. Yes, I got stares. Stare away, I look fantastic.
Chambray button-up: Gap $25; Cardigan: Thrifted $5.99; Pashmina: Borrowed; Peg Pants: ASOS Curve (here) $29.95; Seychelles Booties (no longer available-more here) via Goodwill: $7.99; Coconut Bracelet: Thrifted $1.99
I really appreciate you doing men's posts. I often wonder what it is that my "ideal" kinda woman would find attractive and so I appreciate the insight :-)
And I really appreciate your feedback! It’s nice to be someone’s “ideal” woman. Definitely sharply-dressed men are my ideal, but then when he wants to kick back, a pair of jeans, white tee, and tims are right on.
You know those days when everything you do is unplanned and completely spontaneous? I had one of those days this quickly-fading season, and oh how whimsical it was! Summer and I have had a long-standing love affair, once per year, for the last 28 years (Very Same Time, Next Year). My darling girlfriends from NY decided to come for a visit, and not only was their company stress free, but refreshing. I had just left an awful job, so therefore was jobless, and had only a few hundred dollars to my name. No, money isn’t everything, but it is the root of all evil… necessary evils included. Thankfully, my friends are almost as frugal as yours truly. We took advantage of some free (which proved to be priceless moments) things to do in Burlington and the surrounding area. Scroll down to catch what I considered to be pretty much my favorite day/weekend of the summer.
First stop: Magic Hat Brewery
Next Stop: An Artistic Friend’s Equally Artful Home
(Naturally I had to slip a selfie in here)
It was at this moment that I felt content. What a perfect day.
It’s hot. Freakin’ hot. I ain’t complaining, though… I’m moving into this weather, so I better get used to it, yah? I love it. It’s wonderful. I’m not an Eskimo (yes, I’ve been asked this before)! Although I absolutely love the warm months, there are a few things I (and every other woman) worry about: 1. My rolls, cracks, and crevices are the size of the San Andreas fault, and with that comes sweating. My biggest fear is sitting for long periods of time, then standing up and having a giant sweat mark down my butt. #fatgirlproblems Yeah, you heard right. 2. Chub-rub. You know when your thighs rub together? Yup, that’s what I call it. You know that chaffing that happens? Yeah, it sucks. My solution? Vaseline! I’m not usually one to rub petroleum onto my body, but, when you come up with some natural/organic magic balm made from baby tears, you let this girl know. In the meantime, I’m going to rub that sticky Saudi-Arabian goodness in. So with all of this TMI going on, the last thing I should be worrying about is my makeup beading up and dripping/smearing off. I love me my MAC, but it has no place on me in 500,000% humidity. It’s a shame because I enjoy looking like a drag queen like the next chick, but it just doesn’t work out for me as I end up looking like Heath Ledger’s Joker after an hour. It’s taken me a long time, but I’ve finally found my go-to summer makeup regimen.
Before I show you my goods, here’s my bare-nekkid skin before anything was applied. Thankfully for both of us, my rosacea wasn’t all that bad the day I took these.
And Now that you’ve seen what I look like in the morning, this is what I look like after my summer makeup regimen:
None of this is edited. I’m all about brightening my face and featuring my best assets: my eyes and lips.
Here’s what I use:
1. Physicians Formula Super BB All-In-One Beauty Balm Powder (at most major retailers and here) $13.95; This is my new favorite product I use as a foundation. It’s THE best BB anything I’ve ever used. The coverage is flawless and it doesn’t burn my skin.
2. Covergirl TruBlend mineral bronzer (at most major retailers; see more here)
3. Skinn Cosmetic Palette of Perfection (purchase here) This little baby has everything you need (minus foundation). I have parts of this on my eyes and lips.
4. Maybelline Volum’ Express The Colossal Mascara (at most major retailers; see more here) I have a hard time wearing fake lashes because my eyes are the size of peanuts. This is the next best option. I’m always getting compliments on my lashes when I wear this.
So there you have it. And don’t forget that in addition to looking as beeeautiful as me, remember your confidence. It will make you stand out.
Talk to me, peeps! What’s going on with you? Do you suffer from chub rub, too? Comment belowwwwww.
One thing I’ve griped about for years is that with the already limited selection of plus-size clothing available, rarely is it fashionable. For years, the only affordable options weren’t fashion-forward and most fast-fashion quality is sub-par. Thankfully, there are more fashionable options for us larger ladies, and in more mainstream retailers. K-Mart has thoroughly satisfied my thirst for fashionable, affordable, quality pieces with LYS (Love Your Style, Love Your Size). I have a few different tops by them and they’ve held up very well so far considering I didn’t break the bank AT ALL with them. Check it out here. And for my standard-sized thrifty friends, I recommend you check out Sofia Vergara’s line at K-Mart here. Do you have any fav pieces? Let me know in the comments below!
What I’m wearing: Kmart sheer top $21.99 (On sale now!); DIY Old Navy cutoffs $5.99 (They have a GREAT selection of cutoffs on-sale right now); Sam Edelman gladiators $42 (no longer available, but LOTS of options on Zappos); Neckalce (seen here) Zinnia $11.99
…fix ‘em! I bought these pink Gap slim cropped pants (here) for $1.97 (they were price-killed) in a size 16. I ain’t no 16. I’m a 20. So, how did I get these 16’s to fit my bubble butt? I added purple and black zebra print side panels! I found the fabric on clearance for $7 (it’s an upholstery fabric, but I obviously don’t care). It was surprisingly easy to do. All it takes are some simple measurements and simple sewing skills. If you don’t know how to use a sewing machine, ask someone you know… you’re bound to find someone who will teach you the basics and you’ll be good to go!
Tshirt: Old Navy (here); Shoes & Pants: Gap; Clutch: Old Navy
Since the weather is getting nicer and nicer, it gives me more opportunity to ride my bike and have some time to myself. I just started a new career and thus have been undergoing much stress (a lot of it is self-induced as I psych myself out often). Although I do spend a lot of my time alone, going for a ride gets me away from the computer and outside. I just hop on the bikepath and pedal to one of the many beaches near my house. I don’t like our private beach as we have to practically climb a mountain to get to and from it. Not fun for a fat girl in heat. Besides, there’s more to see at the park beaches.
I was able to ride to a local beach the other day, lay out my vintage picnic blanket, and enjoy my latest read “Mary Queen of Scots and the Murder of Lord Darnley” (History nerd!). It was perfect.
What do you do during the warm months to unwind?
Ever been told this? I sure have. In fact, I was told this just the other day. Yes, I have confidence and a huge personality, but also have a heart. These words ruminate with me. Every time I eat. Every time I get dressed. Every time I look at myself in the mirror. “You’re fat enough, don’t you think?” haunts me everyday.
I’ve been told, “If you lose some weight, you’d be at the top of the totem pole for beauty,” and “All you need to do to get a man is lose weight.” Um, no and heck no. Let me make this very clear: I have no problem finding men. My standards are simply sky high and very few live up to them. I know my self-worth.
There’s nothing wrong with me. There’s something wrong with peoples’ thinking. I am healthy and I am BEAUTIFUL. And at least I have a good heart.
Don’t get yourself twisted.
Enjoy the “fat enough” pictures below…
Outfit Details: Glasses: Ray Ban (here); Blouse: Urban Outfitters (no longer available, similar here); Blazer: Ralph Lauren (no longer available, similar here); Skirt: Old Navy (here); Shoes: Banana Republic via consignment store (no longer available, similar here)
I love cheese. I am a cheese connoisseur through and through. I own a book all about cheese (I’m ashamed by the price I paid for it, too). If there’s cheese on or in something, I’m likely to eat it… except celery. I hate celery. So, how do you make pancakes even better? Add lemon zest/juice and ricotta cheese, of course! I made some small adjustments to the Williams Sonoma recipe I have and they turned out just to my (and my mom’s) liking.
Lemon Ricotta Pancakes
1 cup ricotta cheese
1 cup milk
1/4 cup sugar
Zest & juice of 1 lemon (zest & juice it yourself- the scent adds a burst of sunshine to your day)
1 1/2 cups flour
1 Tbs. baking powder
1/4 tsp. salt
In large bowl, whisk all ingredients together as you normally would with pancakes until even consistency. Preheat griddle over medium heat. Ladle batter onto griddle according to your pancake size preference. Cook until bubble form on top and pancakes are golden brown underneath. Flip ‘em! Cook for approx. 1 more minute.
Makes ~ 12-14 pancakes
Some people eat these with real maple syrup or a dollop of raspberry preserves. I choose both! My syrup was tapped by my grandfather from upstate NY. I can’t help but smile each time I have it.
As my childhood soulmate, Julia Child, would say… Bon Appetit!
I am in serious need of a spring jacket or two, and while I was on the prowl, I found a few I thought I’d share with you.
1: ASOS Curve Fit & Flare Biker Mac; 2: Lane Bryant Lane Collection Moto Jacket; 3: ASOS Curve Biker Parka; 4: Simply Be Cape Look Jacket; 5: Lane Bryant Lane Collection Leopard Trench; 6: Simply Be Bespoke Jacqui Bouclé Jacket
I’m aiming for the two ASOS jackets. Their recent selection has been absolutely beautiful!